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39 Inspirational Henry Cloud Quotes (BOUNDARIES)

Top 15 Inspirational Henry Cloud Quotes About Life

“Grief is accepting the reality of what is. That is grief’s job and purpose-to allow us to come to terms with the way things really are, so that we can move on. Grief is a gift of God. Without it, we would all be condemned to a life of continually denying reality, arguing or protesting against reality, and never growing from the realities we experience.”

Henry Cloud
We all make mistakes, but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.
We all make mistakes, but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.

“The Bible is clear about two principles: (1) We always need to forgive, but (2) we don’t always achieve reconciliation. Forgiveness is something that we do in our hearts; we release someone from a debt that they owe us. We write off the person’s debt, and she no longer owes us. We no longer condemn her. She is clean. Only one party is needed for forgiveness: me. The person who owes me a debt does not have to ask my forgiveness. It is a work of grace in my heart.”

Henry Cloud
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn't. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn’t. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.

“One of the first signs that you’re beginning to develop boundaries is a sense of resentment, frustration, or anger at the subtle and not-so-subtle violations in your life. Just as radar signals the approach of a foreign missile, your anger can alert you to boundary violations in your life.”

Henry Cloud
In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things what you create and what you allow.
In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: what you create and what you allow.

“When we ask we are owning our needs. Asking for love, comfort or understanding is a transaction between two people. You are saying: I have a need. It’s not your problem. It’s not your responsibility. You don’t have to respond, but I’d like something from you. This frees the other person to connect with you freely and without obligation. When we own that our needs are our responsibility we allow others to love us because we have something to offer. Asking is a far cry from demanding. When we demand love, we destroy it.”

Henry Cloud
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.

“Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.”

Henry Cloud
You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.
You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.

“Getting to the next level always requires ending something, leaving it behind, and moving on. Growth demands that we move on. Without the ability to end things, people stay stuck, never becoming who they are meant to be, never accomplishing all that their talents and abilities should afford them.”

Henry Cloud
When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.
When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.

“We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.”

Henry Cloud
Whatever's happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don't treat it like it's the whole story. Keep writing the story.
Whatever’s happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don’t treat it like it’s the whole story. Keep writing the story.
Even the most gifted people and leaders are subject to feeling conflicted about ending things, so they resist.
Even the most gifted people and leaders are subject to feeling conflicted about ending things, so they resist.

8 Inspirational Henry Cloud Quotes About Relationships

Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.”

Henry Cloud
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word 'no.' Love respects 'no,' control does not.
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.

“When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their financial irresponsibility. Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them. If you have been enabling them to be irresponsible, your limit setting may nudge them toward responsibility.”

Henry Cloud
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present.
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that’s present.

“The physicality of a real relationship – one that encompasses mind, body and soul – ultimately makes it more fulfilling and powerful than any virtual relationship ever could be.”

Henry Cloud
You get what you tolerate.
You get what you tolerate.

“I do believe there are things that we desire that are not in the cards. But more often than not, when people have a desire for a relationship and it’s not happening, there are probably issues to be resolved and issues people could work on that would ultimately end in that desire being fulfilled.”

Henry Cloud
Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.
Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.

11 Wise Henry Cloud Quotes To Live By (WISDOM)

“There is a big difference between hurt and harm. We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it makes us grow. It can be the source of huge growth. That is not harmful. Harm is when you damage someone. Facing reality is usually not a damaging experience, even though it can hurt.”

Henry Cloud
The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.

“If you continue to blame other people for “making” you feel guilty, they still have power over you, and you are saying that you will only feel good when they stop doing that. You are giving them control over your life. Stop blaming other people.”

Henry Cloud

“We know from research that growth is actually contagious, so if you want to reach your goals, you’ve got to get around people that are going in the same direction you want to be going, and you will catch the success.”

Henry Cloud
The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

“Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.”

Henry Cloud
Some people's developmental path has not equipped them to stand up and let go of something.
Some people’s developmental path has not equipped them to stand up and let go of something.

“I fell in love with the topic of leadership. For three decades, that has been a major focus of my hands-on work: listening to and working with leaders, their teams and their organizations.”

Henry Cloud
People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari - like they're trying to land the trophy.
People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari – like they’re trying to land the trophy.

Forgiveness gives me boundaries because it unhooks me from the hurtful person, and then I can act responsibly, wisely. If I am not forgiving them, I am still in a destructive relationship with them.”

Henry Cloud
You aren't alive if you aren't in need.
You aren’t alive if you aren’t in need.

5 Henry Quotes on Boundaries

“Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where i end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership. Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me freedom. Taking responsibility for my life opens up many different options. Boundaries help us keep the good in and the bad out. Setting boundaries inevitably involves taking responsibility for your choices. You are the one who makes them. You are the one who must live with their consequences. And you are the one who may be keeping yourself from making the choices you could be happy with. We must own our own thoughts and clarify distorted thinking.”

Henry Cloud
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

“We can’t manipulate people into swallowing our boundaries by sugarcoating them. Boundaries are a “litmus test” for the quality of our relationships. Those people in our lives who can respect our boundaries will love our wills, our opinions, our separateness. Those who can’t respect our boundaries are telling us that they don’t love our nos. They only love our yeses, our compliance. “I only like it when you do what I want.”

Henry Cloud
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.

“If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you ‘do’ boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.”

Henry Cloud

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