“Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain. In contrast, if you’re able to not give a fuck about the pain, you become unstoppable.”
Mark Manson
PinTrue love – that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy – is a choice. It’s a constant commitment to a person regardless of the present circumstances.PinChallenge yourself to find the good and beautiful thing inside of everyone. It’s there. It’s your job to find it. Not their job to show you.PinWho you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for.PinThis is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes.PinTo be happy we need something to solve. Happiness is therefore a form of action.PinThe desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.PinIf pursuing the positive is a negative, then pursuing the negative generates the positive. The pain you pursue in the gym results in better all-around health and energy.PinLike anything worth doing in life, happiness takes time and patience and consistency.PinThe pain of honest confrontation is what generates the greatest trust and respect in your relationships.
19 Inspirational Mark Manson Quotes About Life
“In my life, I have given a fuck about many people and many things. I have also not given a fuck about many people and many things. And like the road not taken, it was the fucks not given that made all the difference.”
Mark Manson
PinLife is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of another.PinMaturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what’s truly fuckworthy. PinThe avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.PinDon’t just sit there. Do something. The answers will follow.PinDon’t hope for better. Just be better. Be something better. Be more compassionate, more resilient, more humble, more disciplined.
“Travel is a fantastic self-development tool, because it extricates you from the values of your culture and shows you that another society can live with entirely different values and still function and not hate themselves.”
Mark Manson
PinOur crisis is no longer material; it’s existential, it’s spiritual. We have so much fucking stuff and so many opportunities that we don’t even know what to give a fuck about anymore.PinYou cannot be a powerful and life-changing presence to some people without being a joke or an embarrassment to others.PinNot giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.PinWe are responsible for experiences that aren’t our fault all the time. This is part of life.PinEverything we think and feel about a situation ultimately comes back to how valuable we perceive it to be.PinCommitment allows you to focus intently on a few highly important goals and achieve a greater degree of success than you otherwise would.PinCommitment gives you freedom because you’re no longer distracted by the unimportant and frivolous.PinWe are actually often happier with less. When we’re overloaded with opportunities and options, we suffer from what psychologists refer to as the paradox of choice.PinProblems never stop; they merely get exchanged and/or upgraded.PinHopelessness is the root of anxiety, mental illness, and depression. It is the source of all misery and the cause of all addiction.PinOur psyche needs hope to survive the way a fish needs water. Hope is the fuel for our mental engine.PinI have tried to live my life such that in the hour of my death I would feel joy rather than fear.
5 Mark Manson Quotes on Happiness
PinWhen we choose to give a fuck about everything, then we feel as though we are perpetually entitled to feel comfortable and happy at all times, that’s when life fucks us.PinHappiness is like being cool, the harder you try the less it’s going to happen. So stop trying. Start living.PinTrue happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.PinHappiness is not something you achieve. It’s not something you do or someplace you get to. Happiness is something you inhabit.PinEverything has an opportunity cost, and the big things we want in life – like happiness and healthy relationships and wealth – they all have big opportunity costs.
18 Wise Mark Manson Quotes to Live By (WISDOM)
PinCarefully choose what to care about.PinWe don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control how we interpret what happens to us, as well as how we respond.PinBravery is not the absence of fear. Bravery is feeling the fear, the doubt, the insecurity, and deciding that something else is more important.PinLife is about not knowing and then doing something anyway.PinIf someone is better than you at something, then it’s likely because she has failed at it more than you have.PinWhat most people don’t understand is that passion is the result of action, not the cause of it.PinBeing open with your insecurities paradoxically makes you more confident and charismatic around others.PinPeople complain not because something sucks. People complain because they’re looking for empathy and to feel connected with those around them.PinOne of those realizations was this: that life itself is a form of suffering. The rich suffer because of their riches. The poor suffer because of their poverty.PinThe more you desperately want to be rich, the more poor and unworthy you feel, regardless of how much money you actually make.PinWhether we consciously recognize it or not, we are always responsible for our experiences.PinSelf-improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn’t mean they’re the same thing.PinSeeking approval and people pleasing forces you to alter your actions and speech to no longer reflect what you actually think or feel.PinWe can be truly successful only at things we are willing to fail at.PinBe motivated by something beyond simply money or glory.PinYou can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns.PinWhen we deny ourselves the ability to feel pain for a purpose, we deny ourselves the ability to feel any purpose in our life at all.PinFreedom itself demands discomfort.
9 Mark Manson Quotes on Change
“When most people set out to change their lives, they often focus on all the external stuff, like a new job or a new location or new friends or a new romantic prospects and on and on. The reality is that changing your life starts with changing the way you see everything in your life.”
Mark Manson
PinWe suffer for the simple reason that suffering is biologically useful. It is nature’s preferred agent for inspiring change. PinLiving well does not mean avoiding suffering; it means suffering for the right reasons.PinIf you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success.PinThe fact is, people who base their self-worth on being right about everything prevent themselves from learning from their mistakes.PinBeing wrong opens us up to the possibility of change. Being wrong brings the opportunity for growth.PinEven if you don’t know what you’re doing, the simple act of working on it will eventually cause the right ideas to show up in your head.PinUltimately, we are moved to action only by emotion. That’s because action is emotion.
“Pain is important, and changing who you are is difficult, painful, and scary. Most of the self-help industry sees change as this euphoric, liberating thing and tells you that you can be happy all the time. I think the opposite.”
Mark Manson
5 Mark Manson Quotes on Love and Relationship
“Unhealthy love is based on two people trying to escape their problems through their emotions for each other—in other words, they’re using each other as an escape. Healthy love is based on two people acknowledging and addressing their own problems with each other’s support.”
Mark Manson
PinYou must love someone without expecting anything in return; otherwise, it’s not truly love.PinBy itself, love is never enough to sustain a relationship.PinRomantic love is a trap designed to get two people to overlook each other’s faults long enough to get some baby-making done. It generally only lasts for a few years at most.PinApproaching people looking for something in return isn’t a relationship, it’s a transaction.
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